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Let’s Talk About Rape (Part Two); or, There’s No Such Thing as Blurred Lines

Strap in, everyone, because look who’s back (and still raging)!!

Today, we’re going to talk about rape.  Specifically, we’re going to be talking about rape culture and how much I hate the song “Blurred Lines.”

By now, I’m sure everyone even remotely in the blogosphere has heard, read, or written pretty much everything there is to say about that heinous song, but I’m putting my $.02 in because it makes me really mad and blogging helps me relieve some of that overwhelming anger.

Let me make one thing perfectly clear right now: There is no such thing as a damn blurred line.

Either you have consent or you do not. Why don’t we take a look at what constitutes consent:

  1. Q. Hey, wanna do it/bang/have sex/keep going/get it on? (et al)
    A. Yes/Sure/Absolutely/Of course/Definitely/Totally/Hell yeah (et al)

Now let’s look at what does NOT constitute consent

  1. Silence
  2. Having had sex previously
  3. Being drunk
  4. Unconsciousness
  5. Coercion
  6. Any prior intimate activity
  7. Saying NO

If you’re trying to have sex with someone, and you get anything other than a (SOBER) voluntary, enthusiastic YES, then you do not have consent. THE END.

No, it does not matter if you’ve had sex with that person before. No, it does not matter if you were making out five minutes ago. No, it does not matter if they are passed out. No, it does not matter if you think you “know [they] want it.” No, it does not matter what that person is wearing. No, it does not matter how many sexual partners that person has had.

ONLY YES MEANS YES.

Can we figure that out already and stop perpetuating rape culture and victim blaming? It’s pretty easy not to be a rapist. All you have to do is NOT RAPE PEOPLE.

/end rant.

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4 thoughts on “Let’s Talk About Rape (Part Two); or, There’s No Such Thing as Blurred Lines

  1. One question about “rape culture”

    Two people get really drunk and have sex, who is the rapist?

    Now answer this question without “victim blaming” or denying that having sex with some who’s unable to consent is rape.

    • I don’t understand why you’ve put rape culture in quotations. It’s a real thing that exists and is a major problem in not only American society but globally as well.

      Anyway.

      When I refer to someone being drunk and unable to consent, what I am referring to is someone else taking advantage of the other person’s inebriation in order to have sex, and the key words to look at there are “taking advantage of.”

      In terms of two drunk people having sex, one has to look on a case-by-case basis. Are both of the parties involved over the age of consent? Are they both old enough to consume alcohol? Did one (or both) of them express an objection to sexual activity? Again, I would say that they key difference between rape and having sex drunk would be whether one person was taking advantage of another. But in a situation where someone would be unsure whether it would be rape or not, it’s probably best to walk away. If you’re not sure you have enthusiastic consent, better not to proceed at all.

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