I’m a feminist, which does not mean I hate men.
It means I believe in equality for men and women and everyone in-between.
It means I think women should have the right to do what they want without getting judged or told they are wrong. Wanna be a mom and a housewife? Cool, you can do that. Wanna be a corporate lawyer? Cool, go do it. Wanna be a crazy cat lady? Bring on the kitties.
Being a feminist also means I believe our society needs a radical change in the way we look at gender and at women.
I think we need to get rid of the words “slut” and “whore.”
I think we need to stop victim-blaming.
I think we need to stop protecting rapists.
I think we need to start respecting women no matter what they wear.
I think the government needs to get out of my uterus.
I think we need more women speaking on behalf of women. I think middle-aged, upper-middle-class men need to stop pretending they know anything about being a woman.
I think it needs to stop being okay for people to shame women just for being women.
I think it needs to stop being okay for men to yell at me when I walk down the street just because I’m female.
I think it needs to stop being okay for men to do whatever they want with whoever they want, but shame women when they do the same thing.The first time I heard the “key and lock” analogy, I was so disgusted that I nearly vomited.
Being a feminist does not mean I hate men. It means I hate being treated like a lesser being. It means I hate inequality and disrespect and misogyny. It means I hate sexism.
It means I hate when people are surprised that I’m intelligent because I am also blonde.
It means I hate getting told that if I get sexually assaulted, it’s my fault.
It means I hate that my worth as a human is based on my appearance, my clothes, my sexuality.
It means I hate being told that I have to look like this, dress like this, be this– when all of the “this-es” are mutually incompatible.
It means I hate that pre-teens have eating disorders.
It means I hate that our society sexualizes young girls, teaches them that their self-worth is bound in what men think/want.
It means I am angry.
It means I want change, because I am a smart, talented, and educated woman, and dammit, I deserve just as much respect as anyone else in the world.
This is why I am a feminist.